It is true that I've grown more aware of the opposite sex of late. It seems that recently I've been especially tuned into the strong force of female attractiveness. I suspect it is due to the increased number of engagements/weddings of close friends. This has also led me to wonder if the Intimacy that I long for leads to lustful cravings. Is lust a perversion of the need for intimacy? If I'm still single, then how can I combat this? I believe the solution starts with asking the right question.
If you are familiar with conflict resolution techniques, than you might be familiar with the phrase "Don't blame, name". The idea is as simple as the phrase. Blaming does not lead to a solution. However, naming what upset you often lends to the diffusion of unrighteous aggression.
I believe this approach can be useful in addressing the real issues behind lust. I believe that blaming makes it easier to give into such temptations. I've blamed my sinful nature, I've blamed my gender, I've blamed my physiology. The problem with blaming is that it covertly shifts the responsibility away from ourself. When instead we seek to name the true source of temptation, we are better able to understand it, and ideally overcome it.
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