What is heartbreak? I believe it is giving your heart to another, and finding out they don't value it as high as you do. The feeling is indescribable. I better empathize for any I've hurt and ask for forgiveness for any heart i have not treated delicately. I am sorry to any whose hearts I have broken in anyway.
God has enabled me to reflect on this. I admit I'm still really close to it (45 minutes ago). However, I would not do anything differently. The experience has only confirmed what I've learned from previous heartbreaks. I would rather have you learn from me then experience it yourself...
1) If you end the relationship- it is not helpful to follow up with dating advise. Don't try to be a matchmaker.
2) They may feel horrible afterwards. It is better to expect this.
3) After you break it off, it is no longer your job to console the other person.
4) It nobel to want to provide closure- but short and sweet is the best way to end things.
5) It will take time to move on. Allow for such time, your thinking may be tainted by the emotional backlash. Don't make any immediate decisions that may have lasting consequences.
6) You may find yourself wanting to rebound. Resist this temptation, or risk loosing friends of the opposite gender who are close to you.
7) The longer you are together, the harder the break will be (and vice versa).
8) The more physical intimacy you share, the harder the break will feel.
9) No Girl (or guy) will be every girl (or guy). Don't end the relationship because they laugh too hard or can't swim like you.
10) Have God given standards that exist before you meet someone. If they don't meet up to these standards, then they're not the person for you- no matter how strongly you feel for them.
11) It may feel like no one can take their place. However, there is approximately 6,697,254,041 people in the world... so chances are someone will.
12) You can't really choose who you are attracted to. Attraction may emerge over time. If it does not- don't force it.
You should be attracted to physical appearance and personality. It is best not to initiate unless you feel both.
I am only 26, there may be exceptions to these rules that I'm unaware of. Yet, if you are younger than me, I doubt you know better. Save yourself some heartache and learn from me. Wish you the best in Life and Love.
-Nate
4 comments:
Don't be too upset... I hear "California girls- they're undeniable. Fun, fresh, fierce- they got it on lock. West coast represent." :)
Lol- is that west coast lingo? Well I'll have to take your word on that. All I know from California girls I got from that beach boys song. Thanks for talking it over with me last week, it helped me formalize my thought process.
anytime- i'm very wise ;) and my new knowledge of california girls comes from the latest katy perry song- i've never been there myself... if only i had a friend who lived there. . . :)
I heard the song for the first time today. :)
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